Use your imagination and go beyond!

Synastry is one of the astrological techniques that has deeply interested me from the very beginning of my journey with astrology.

Since a young age, maybe when I was 9 or 10 years old, as we didn’t have internet yet, I used to read those cheap astrological magazines available in Brazil on the basic sun sign romantic combination and felt like I was uncovering some secret truth that was kept away from the majority of people.

With that said, the mystery of chart combination and astrological compatibility still hasn’t ceased to amaze me!

The other day as I was dancing around the living room and having corporeal insights into the subject (sometimes that happens with me), when suddenly it became clear to me something that I had heard during one of John Green’s lectures about synastry and the importance of always considering each astrology chart individually before making any further assumption on compatibility.

I was thinking about two different people currently in my life and how each affect me in very distinct ways, which also brought me the thought that attraction can have many facets and be very individually experienced as well.

In all of the astrological cookbooks one of the most well-known interaspects indicating magnetic sexual attraction between two people is Venus from one person activating Mars of the other.

(Im sure that I have already written about this when a co-worker in the past had his Mars in a tight conjunction to my Venus and all that that reflected was that we could work really well together, but definitely not in a romantic way as I didn’t feel any sort of sexual attraction towards him)

Anyway, here is another opportunity for me to uncover what it seems to be one of the ‘absolute truths’ of the astrological cookbook literary world!

I have been seeing someone for a few weeks and things are developing quite nice and slowly (I currently have transiting Saturn forming a trine to my natal Venus and DSC).

One day we went out together and I met one of his friends which I felt a magnetic attraction towards almost immediately. The physical vibrations I was feeling when he sat at our table serving himself a glass of beer sort of reflected to me that that was reciprocal, I think.

It was weird and uncomfortable even to talk with each other at first and I was at times feeling paranoid that my behaviour was too obvious and revealing. I did not feel very good about the whole thing.

Days later, when I was dancing and having astrological insights, I had the thought that that guy’s Mars closely trining my natal Venus was actually activating my natal Venus square Neptune combo and it was pretty uncomfortable rather than a ‘wonderful magnetic physical smooth sexual chemistry’. I felt awkward (my Venus is also in Virgo!) and very inadequate a lot of the time when this person was around, whereas with the current guy I am going out with there is a very strong friendly energy and I feel that I can be myself much more freely.

There are many other details that I have analysed about both synastries and both people in question, for instance the guy Im going out with have done many years of therapy already, a fact I feel that is of paramount importance in how a person can express more consciously the energies reflected in the birth chart, but I am not going to go into it right now.

My point is that we have to always analyse the whole chart and the level of awareness of each person before making assumptions on how the relationship will evolve. And in my opinion, we can’t know that without listening to the person in question.

So, cookbooks yes, they are an important step in order to start understanding what the symbolism can mean. They are part of a fundamental stage in our development and gathering of basic knowledge. But don’t get stuck with them, use your imagination and go beyond!

On astrological compatibility..

Finally I’m sitting down to write a little.

Life on the road is becoming a series of catching up; with laundry, with different people, with myself (Im still rarely spending time on my own company), with my diet, my yoga practice…

I am really looking forward to have a room for myself but I know that it won’t happen for another month or perhaps 2 months (I’m going to check another place that I would only be able to move in on 1st of October).

But that doesn’t bother me.

Life has its seasons and I’ve been learning how to respect and flow with it rather than fight it.

Anyways, enough of catching up with myself here.

What I really was thinking about is writing a few posts on common questions that people ask you when they find out that you’re an astrologer.

Astrology still so much misunderstood.

So, one of the questions people always ask me (together with the usual is that good or bad?!) is:  “which star sign would be my perfect match?”

I think this is such a funny question. And naive at the same time.

When I think about compatibility I think about commonality.

Traditionally if your sun is in Aquarius you wouldn’t be a match made in heaven with someone that has a cancerian sun, but what if your Moon is in Cancer?! And even better, the other person’s Moon is also in Aquarius?

Synastry has always been one of my favorite topics in astrology and because of that I’ve been experimenting with it a lot in my life. I was always paying attention to how I feel around a certain person and then checking the symbolic reflection of it.

Then, as I was becoming more acquainted with the astrological language, I started comparing how the same interaspect would feel with two different people. I once dated a guy for couple of months that had a very tight conjunction from his Saturn to my natal Sun, an interaspect that I also had with my father.

So fascinating to see those energies playing out in “real life”!

I went to Bristol for another week and spent more time with the man I’ve met at the festival. Things are unfolding pretty well between us and I can’t ignore the strong amount of commonalities between our charts.

I have a strong angular square involving Virgo and Sagittarius and in a different way (involving slightly different houses and planets) so does he.

We share something; a similar conflict is playing out in our psyches.

The need to be free to explore and be spontaneous (Sagittarius) versus the analytical and grounded tendencies that need to be put into service (Virgo). The switch back and forth from the bigger picture to the smallest details in a situation.

And because we are both made of these energies we sort of understand each other’s two sides.

I think that this is what I mean by commonalities.

When people share similar energies, like for example someone with a strong Capricornian nature can relate well with someone that has a stellium in the 10th house, there is a natural understanding.

Not to forget that our level of awareness has a major impact on how much you get on with someone else or not.

And this part still pretty much a mystery, in my opinion, impossible to be measured with astrology.